This moving anonymous case study shares the story of a female adult in St. Kitts who lost their mother to cancer and found herself overwhelmed by grief, guilt, and self-doubt. Through counselling, she discovered a path toward healing, self-compassion, and resilience. Their story is a testament to the power of seeking support in the face of loss. This case study is part of our Routes to Resilience campaign.
Content warning: This case study contains references to grief, caregiving, and the death of a loved one.
The darkest period of my life began when my mother was diagnosed with cancer and, just a few months later, passed away. It was a devastating and overwhelming experience—one that shattered my world.
Before the diagnosis, we noticed changes in my mother, but we couldn’t quite pinpoint what was wrong. When the reality finally set in, I was thrust into a new role—no longer just a daughter but a caregiver. I felt completely unprepared for this transition and constantly questioned whether I was doing enough. In my heart, I believed I was failing her.
Grief was all-consuming. I experienced waves of sadness, anxiety, guilt, and a deep sense of loss. The guilt was particularly unbearable—I blamed myself for not realising the seriousness of her condition sooner, for not being the perfect caregiver, for not having more time. I was drowning in emotions I didn’t know how to process, and the weight of it all left me feeling lost.
Just when I thought I couldn’t endure any more pain, an opportunity for counselling arose through my church. I had never considered therapy before, but something told me to take the risk and seek help. That decision changed everything.
Through counselling, I found a safe space to express my emotions without fear of judgment. My counsellor helped me process my grief, understand my feelings, and, most importantly, realise that none of this was my fault. I learned that grief doesn’t follow a linear path, and healing takes time. I was given practical techniques to manage the overwhelming waves of sadness and anxiety. Slowly, I began to feel more in control—I was still grieving, but I was no longer drowning in it.
By the time my mother passed away, my counselling sessions had ended, but I felt equipped to continue on my own. I was able to honour her memory without being consumed by guilt and sorrow.
A few years later, I faced another difficult chapter in my life. Remembering how transformative counselling had been, I didn’t hesitate to seek help again. Once more, it proved to be a guiding light, giving me the tools to cope and the strength to move forward.
If you are going through a challenging period, feeling overwhelmed, or struggling with grief, I urge you to reach out for support. You are not alone. Counselling is not a sign of weakness—it is a powerful step towards healing. Sometimes, the greatest strength comes from allowing yourself to be supported.
Need Help? You Are Not Alone
If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, please don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Help is available:
- St. Kitts Mental Health Association
Website: https://skmha.wordpress.com
Email: mhastkitts@gmail.com
The St. Kitts Mental Health Association works to reduce stigma and improve mental health through cooperation, acceptance, research, and education (CARE). - Counselling Unit, Department of Social Development
Website: https://socialdevelopment.gov.kn/counselling-services/
Email: nationalcounsellingcentre@gov.kn
Phone: 662 8086
The Counselling Unit offers a safe and supportive environment for healing, growth, and personal development through compassionate and respectful care. - Nevis Behavioural Health and Wellness Centre, Address: Church Ground, Nevis, Phone number: 660 9551
You are not alone—support is here, and reaching out is a very important step.
